People who become more stubborn and unbearable to live with in their 60s and 70s usually aren’t trying to be difficult at all — they’re refusing, in the only language left available to them, to be managed instead of asked. The stubbornness is a person still insisting they’re the one living this life, not just occupying it
What families call stubbornness in aging parents may be the final assertion of autonomy against a slow erasure of choice.